After one and half months into widowhood here's what I've learned. Have that glass of wine but keep it at one - any more than that will throw you into a crying jag. Also, when the funeral director says don't worry about social security benefits because they will be automatic once they are notified by the funeral home. This is a big f***ing lie. You need to set up an appointment. After two months of no increased benefits I called Social Security and got an appointment to fix this situation but the first available appointment is December 3. So okay, this is really helping to push me into the anger phase of grief. You feel me yet?
Next up is the lovely state of New Jersey where my husband worked as servant in education for over 40 years and I for over 32 years. The Teacher's Pension and Annuity Fund are just the real motherf****ers of all time. Notified by fax on August 30 (one day after he died) with death certificate and funeral home verification, and with seven plus phone calls, I still do not even have the claim forms to file for my pension benefits guaranteed by the state. I was also informed that once they get the claim forms it will be three to six months before I start receiving my legal pension benefits. Wow! So glad I was an educator. *sarcasm*
Well, I guess I should be grateful that the sh**t h*"le state of New Jersey doesn't disappoint. Why am I writing this? To let all currently recently widowed persons know that once the initial shock wears off, you will need to get up and show up to fight - every. single. day. - for what is legally owed you. No one in the financial world gives two sticks about your loss. The bills keep coming in and the bastards who owe you your rightful money keep their tight greedy fists on it. I'm sure they count on the bereaved to just give up. But guess what Jersey? I was born in New Jersey and raised to be a street fighter!
Oh, I'm sure there's more fun coming my way. Stay tuned. Meanwhile, I'm still waiting for the painters and plumbers and wallboard guys to finish their damn contracted jobs. My apologies if my tirade offends anyone's sensitivities. Not!
Phew! That felt good. Now, I'll have that glass of wine! *smiling now*
7 comments:
WOW!!! You are a fighter!!!! Give them hell!! That’s BS! Ok, now Cheers🍷🍷🍷
You Go girl! Heels digging in.
Hell yeah🍷🍾🥂
You should send a copy if this to Phil Murphy. He claims to be champion of the people. It always amazes me the bureaucracy of the government works against the people it pretends to serve. I wonder why there is a shortage of educators. Hmmmmm
Murphy cares about only Murphy. Sad but true.
I wanted John Wisneski to be governor... but Murphy had the $. But I'll still vote against the friggin' GOP in the next election. CHEERS to you, and KUDOS, major KUDOS, in your battle! You DESERVE the pension AND the bump in social security... we are all rooting for you! xoxo
I agree Murphy was the obvious choice. I'm just waiting for politicians who work for the workers and not corporate greed. Hopefully, I can retrieve the funds that are legally and rightfully mine.
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